The RobertOMath philosophy is that every student has the potential to be top their school in mathematics, (or any other subject), the defining factor in their ultimate success being their self-belief, how they see themselves. Many years ago, Maxwell Maltz wrote what many have called the definitive motivational book, “Psycho Cybernetics” in which he developed the theory that each person “creates” themselves faithful to the image that they have in their subconscious mind. Parents are often the most persuasive influence in helping grow that image.
Many parents are totally supportive of their children, and this gives that child the best chance of success, not only at school, but also in life. Unfortunately, some parents, think that their child is average or below and in their own heart don’t believe that their child can succeed beyond the mean. They often use comments such as “I was no good at school and I don’t expect that my son/daughter will be any better than I was”. Under this scenario the prediction will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. It needn’t be so!
The most successful path to raising a happy and well-performed student is not easy to navigate and requires the support of both parents. Praise should be used, but it must be genuine in its delivery, most children can recognise false tributes.
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In order to know more of what is happening with your child and the education of your child it is important for parents to not just become actively involved in their child’s learning at home, but to also participate in other school functions. Such activities could include school councils, parent clubs, sporting opportunities, or other less formal school activities. It is that participation which tells the child that he/she is vitally important to you and affirms your love for them.
In primary school, and certainly in infant school, most parents initially just want their child to be happy and enjoy education. However, the ultimate success of a child in life is often pre-determined in those formative years, when as Malz says, we create our sub-conscious self-image which stays with us through out life. If Maltz is correct, then infants and primary school are by far the most important years in a child’s education.
Parents need to be vigilant to ensure that their child enjoys every success in these vital years and that their self-image is allowed to grow and flourish. Being part of the school process will give an early alert if there are problems developing that could continue through life. Again, remember that the parents themselves are the most important influence on a child’s image and they need be very careful as to how they balance encouragement with parental expectation. High expectations are fine, in fact they are very beneficial to the child, just as long as the child does not feel pressured and then wrongly concludes that he/she is a failure.
Once a child reaches secondary school their academic pathway has been mapped out, if this is for greatness then that is good. Albeit, even if primary school has been a litany of missed opportunities, all is not lost. It just means that increased effort needs to be found to create that success culture. After school tuition will help, provided the coach is a true mentor and realizes that he has the care of a genius.
Other than the big concern (although this is a lesser problem) for a parent of a secondary school child is how well they will cope with the transition from primary to secondary school. In most cases, parents want to know that their child is challenged and stimulated while their talents continue to be recognized. Most of all in secondary schools of today, the main worry is that they remain both happy and safe.
In your child’s senior years the parent focus changes to consideration of the child’s future. Parents want to know that their school provides choice, pathways to employment or tertiary study and a level of academic standard that will give a student the best possible chance in their chosen path.
So whatever level of education that your child is currently at, be involved on an active level. Active participation at the school not only teaches you as a parent what to do in supporting your child but it informs the teachers that you care and that you are prepared to do whatever it takes to improve your child’s performance levels. Also, you now have a far better chance to recognize problems and what to do to solve them.